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Women Share Why They Married A Guy They Settled For & Their Answers Are Devastating

Choosing the person you have to live with for the rest of your life isn’t easy.

Getting married isn’t a joke. You’re picking the person who you’re going to grow old with, and that isn’t a small decision. So, you have to make sure before you say yes.

However, some people don’t function that way. They take what they get. Individuals who don’t really know the answer to “How did you know they were the one?”

Seven such women talked about settling for some men, and here are their experiences:

#1 Throwing away the checklist.

One day, I turned 30, told myself that nobody is perfect and changed the way I dated.

I stopped looking for guys who met everything on my checklist and started finding someone who was decent and who loved me. I married a guy who is not perfect — nobody is — but he is a good guy, and that is enough in my book.

— Shawna P., 35

 

#2 Trusting my parents.

I didn’t have fireworks-feelings toward my husband when we were dating, but my parents always loved him, and they told me he is definitely the one.

I wasn’t sure if he was or not, but I decided to settle on him and get married because I trusted them. We’ve been married for a year so far.

— Raquel S., 25

#3 The clock was ticking.

I was about to hit 37 and figured it was now or never. I asked the guy I was dating if he’d marry me because I wanted to just have kids and get serious about the whole family thing.

Simply put, I wanted to get the show on the road, and he was the right guy at the right time.

— Dara G., 39

 

#4 Didn’t want to be the single one.

All my friends were settling down and getting married, and I didn’t want to be the single one anymore. I was dating two guys at once, and I finally decided that the guy I’m now married to was the winner of the two.

He wasn’t perfect or everything I dreamed of, but I wanted to settle down, so I settled on him.

— Ashley S., 26

 

#5 Married a guy I can stand.

I thought about having a kid on my own, but then, I realized I should invest more time in dating. It took me a while to find anyone whom I even enjoyed being around.

I can honestly say I didn’t marry a guy I am madly in love with, but I married a person I can stand and who can deal with me. The truth is, I was getting older and just didn’t want to be single.

— Ruth D., 38

 

#6 Commitment issues.

All of my friends told me I had commitment issues and just needed to get married. I was dating a guy for three years, and it just seemed like the right thing to do.

I wasn’t sure about him and had cold feet like three times. We’ve been married for six months, and I’m honestly not sure if it’s love or if I just settled.

— Bethanny G., 26

 

#7 Crazy love doesn’t exist.

I don’t think I found ‘the one,’ but I also don’t think the grass is greener. I found someone who is a decent human being, and in my world and this world we live in, that’s enough.

I don’t think crazy love exists. I think you should find a person who is good enough, settle down and that’s that.

— Marissa P., 37

 

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