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A Viral Photo Of A Calm Dad And A Screaming Toddler Holds An Important Parenting Lesson

Parenting is arguably one of the most difficult jobs

You’re responsible for another human being, their good and their bad, in the eyes of everyone. They do not have morals and ideas beyond that which you place upon them, and for that, they are a representation of you and you are a representation of them. With that in mind, it’s important to remember that they are still, in fact, children.

So they’re not the most reasonable of people.

Actor Justin Baldoni, best known for playing the suave Rafael in CW’s hit show Jane the Virgin, has a daughter. The reason I bring it up is because less than a week ago, his daughter decided to throw a temper tantrum in public. For most parents, that’s nothing short of a nightmare.

But as you can see below, while his daughter is in the typical tantrum posture, complete with pounding the floor with her tiny fists, Baldoni doesn’t look the least bit angry. In fact, he looks concerned.

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He takes the opportunity to give incredible parenting advice

I tried to stay off social media yesterday to connect with my family without distraction so I’m posting this today. Emily took this in Whole Foods. It’s now one of my favorite photos ever of me and my dad.

Two men, standing together in silence, forever bonded by an unconditional love for both each other and this brand new, raw and pure soul who we would both go to the ends of the earth for. I can only imagine how many times I did this when I was her age. My dad taught me so much about what it means to be a man, but this post is about one thing and one thing only. Being comfortable in the uncomfortable. Something I grew up watching him do with me over and over again.

There are no perfect parents, but one thing my dad taught me is to not parent based on what anyone else thinks. My dad always let me feel what I needed to feel, even if it was in public and embarrassing. I don’t remember him ever saying “You’re embarrassing me!” or “Don’t cry!” It wasn’t until recently that I realized how paramount that was for my own emotional development. Our children are learning and processing so much information and they don’t know what to do with all of these new feelings that come up.

I try to remember to make sure my daughter knows it’s OK that she feels deeply. It’s not embarrassing to me when she throw tantrums in the grocery store, or screams on a plane. I’m her dad…not yours. Let’s not be embarrassed for our children. It doesn’t reflect on you. In fact.. we should probably be a little more kind and patient with ourselves too.

If we got out everything we were feeling and allowed ourselves to throw tantrums and cry when we felt the need to then maybe we’d could also let ourselves feel more joy and happiness. And that is something this world could definitely use a little more of. #fathersday#redifinemasculinity#daddy#dearmaiya

There’s a lot of pressure on men and women to be the perfect parents.

The truth is most have no idea what they’re doing. They’re simply trying their hardest and doing their best. It’s important to remember that no matter what, kids will be kids no matter what. They’re not going to be reasonable, and they’re not going to be logical. That’s okay. You shouldn’t be embarrassed about it at all. Children are just that; children. Give them room to be.

Justin Boldani by Danielle Kosann

You can view the original Facebook post below:

I tried to stay off social media yesterday to connect with my family without distraction so I'm posting this today….

Geplaatst door Justin Baldoni op Maandag 19 juni 2017

 

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