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Many people already know the difference though. However, you might thing these two elements don’t mix. These things are not mutually exclusive though. You might not find things social butterflies can be going through social anxiety.
Experts say that sometimes being social or the ‘life of the party’ can be a coping mechanism. Some people might be overcompensating for their social inadequacy. If an outgoing friend shares their problem with you. Be there for them and don’t judge them.
Following are the 19 things that Talkative people with social anxiety want you to know.
You think I’m super outgoing, but I’m actually talking nonstop because I’m so nervous. A lot of the time later on when I’m alone, I replay the conversation we had and hate myself for half the stuff I said. To you, the whole thing was just a ‘normal’ conversation. To me, it’s so much more complex than that.
Hannah L
I may look comfortable continuously talking for hours, but inside me is the anxiety and unexplainable embarrassment waiting to burst. I feel like the moment I stop, people will completely lose interest in me — as if it’s the only thing I can offer.
John B
I over-analyze every single conversation, every single word spoken to me or about me. I know it can be irrational, but it’s just how my brain processes other people’s words, meanings and implications (whether they’re good or not).
Elizabeth G
[I wish others knew] that we can be close friends and spend almost every day together for months and then — seemingly out of the blue — I won’t come around or hang out or even text as much. I might even try to avoid running into you out in public. It’s nothing personal, sometimes the interaction with friends or family is even more overwhelming than usual. Don’t give up on me though, I’ll be back.
Layla M
I wish other people understood that just because I’m good at social interaction does not in any way mean I don’t have social anxiety.
Daniel J
I’m not trying to be annoying, I just love when I can finally talk to someone and not be terrified. I tend to say a lot in a short amount of time, so it really helps if you just listen because sometimes people will just get annoyed and shut you down for being talkative.
India S
I’ve learned to be a very good actress. You would never know the anxiety that’s going on inside or how nauseous I get when I’m getting ready. Once I push myself out the door and get there, the acting kicks in and I’m OK as long as I stay ‘in character.’
Tammy B
Even though I am talking to you and [might] seem completely chill, inside my mind I am over thinking and analyzing every aspect of your body language and words in an attempt to detect if I am being weird or awkward.
Sarah J
Being social isn’t easy for me. I have at least 10 different ways of saying the same sentence in my head and I’m made to make a split decision on which one to choose. I stutter and talk fast to get the conversation over and done with.
Kaicee M
I talk so much because I’m uncomfortable. I’m not trying to make friends with everyone — I’m trying to fit in/assimilate by being outgoing. I may seem confident and friendly, but on the inside, I wish I could just crawl into bed and hide from the world.
Lauren A
Even though I seem outgoing, sometimes seemingly small things are too difficult and I just can’t do it. Even if Ive done it a hundred times before.
Bailey M
I talk a lot and to a lot of people because I want to make people feel included. I often go through bouts of thinking no one really likes me, so I don’t ever want to make others feel that way.
Tasha B
I’m not a hypocrite for being both talkative/making plans and anxious to the point where Ive had to cancel plans. I understand I need to take time for my mental health, but [I] also feel like I’m blowing off my friends when I have to bail.
Nicole C
I find myself thinking I need to hurry and say what I’m thinking, often rambling at warp speed because my distorted thinking tells me the person listening either doesn’t care or is going to interrupt soon, so I better hurry. My messed up inner critic makes me do it! But I’m getting better about it.
Linnea H
I wish people would understand my fidgeting, lack of eye contact, dislike of being touched and inability to stay focused on a conversation is not due to lack of interest in the conversation/them and I am not intentionally trying to come across as rude.
Sarah B
