What Is With Everyone Shaming Moms? This Post Explains It All

• By Malaika Aman
• July 22, 2017
• 4 minutes read

Everyone Is Different.

We always have that at the back of our heads, but sometimes we need a gentle reminder of that. When it comes to parenting, however. This difference becomes more apparent. Everyone has a different parenting style, and we need to accept that rather than judging someone.

However, that is exactly what we do. Even if you are trying to be perfect. There will still be someone who thinks you’re doing something wrong. We are humans, and we like to judge other people to feel better about our own life practices.

One mother, however, was tired of these mum wars. So she wrote a post on her Facebook page about the mom-shaming that has been going on in every comment section of parenting posts and articles.

You Are Not A Bad Mom.

My house is never clean. Like ever. I have friends (with kids) whose houses are spotless. Are they better mothers than me? Nope. Am I a better mother than them? Nope. I have a friend who gave birth in a pool in her living room. I pushed mine out in a hospital bed after receiving a gift from the epidural fairy. Both of us are good moms. I drink a beer or glass of wine (sometimes in front of my kids!) on occasion. I’m a good mom. My neighbor and good friend doesn’t drink. Also a good mom.

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You Might Not Be Perfect, But At-least You Are Trying Your Best.

She later explained as to why she wrote the post. She also said that she did get a lot of positive responses. However, the comment section was not all positive.

We are all just doing our best. I’ve been blasted online by people who don’t know me for drinking, being a helicopter parent, not watching my kids enough, having a messy house, etc. And my friends who formula feed are put through the ringer. It’s ridiculous. We all want to feel like we are doing a good job, so why not give each other support and grace instead of unfair and unnecessary judgment?

Following are some of the positive reactions to her post. Many even posted their struggles with being a parent. Even some fathers joined in.

It Is Hard To Compare Yourself To Others.

It Is Completely Fine To Let The Kids Have Fun Once In A While.

We At Rearfront Completely Agree.

A Rare Sight Happened. A Father Joined The Comment Section.

Well, We Better Not Piss Her Off Anymore.

Janet Knows The Truth.

It Can’t Be Called The Internet Without Some Negativity However.

We Are All Just Ordinary Human Beings.

Many People Were Thankful That She Touched On This Issue.

All In All, This Post Was A Huge Confidence Boost For Many.

At the end of the day. It is all relative. We just have to accept our differences and make peace with everyone.

Motherhood is hard. You’re doing a good job. Raising kids can knock the wind out of a person. You got this!

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