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This Mom Had The Perfect Response When Her 4-Year-Old Daughter Called Her "Fat"

This Mom Had The Perfect Response When Her 4-Year-Old Daughter Called Her “Fat”

Allison Kimmey is an international body-positive and self-love advocate

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She wrote “Glitter Stripes“, a body confidence book for children. In it, she describes the importance of how we talk about our bodies to our children and I don’t mean “The Talk”. She means about ways we approach certain aspects, such as stretch marks or fat. Things that aren’t socially attractive.

And if her happiness is any indication, it’s working.

Recently, her daughter called her fat

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And while most parents would be extremely angry or disappointed with their daughter for saying that, Kimmey had another approach. It’s an approach that most parents and children could do well to understand.

It started at the pool

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My daughter called me fat today.
She was upset I made them get out of the pool and she told her brother that mama is fat.
I told her to meet me upstairs so we could chat.
Me: “what did you say about me?”
Her: “I said you were fat, mama, im sorry”
Me: “let’s talk about it. The truth is, I am not fat. No one IS fat. It’s not something you can BE. But I do HAVE fat. We ALL have fat. It protects our muscles and our bones and keeps our bodies going by providing us energy. Do you have fat?”
Her: “yes! I have some here on my tummy”
Me: “that’s right! So do I and so does your brother!”

Of course, the son needed some reassurance

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Her brother: “I don’t have any fat, I’m the skinniest, I just have muscles”
Me: “actually everyone, every single person in the world has fat. But each of us has different amounts.”
Her brother: ” oh right! I have some to protect my big muscles! But you have more than me”
Me: “Yes, that’s true. Some people have a lot, and others don’t have very much. But that doesn’t mean that one person is better than the other, do you both understand?
Both: “yes, mama”
Me: “so can you repeat what I said”
Them: “yes! I shouldn’t say someone is fat because you can’t be just fat, but everyone HAS fat and it’s okay to have different fat”
Me: “exactly right!”
Them: “can we go back to the pool now?”
Me: no ??

She later goes on to elaborate

Each moment these topics come up i have to choose how I’m going to handle them. Fat is not a bad word in our house. If I shame my children for saying it then I am proving that it is an insulting word and I continue the stigma that being fat is unworthy, gross, comical and undesirable.

Since we don’t call people fat as an insult in my household, I have to assume she internalized this idea from somewhere or someone else. Our children are fed ideas from every angle, you have to understand that that WILL happen: at a friends house whose parents have different values, watching a tv show or movie, overhearing someone at school- ideas about body image are already filtering through their minds. It is our job to continue to be the loudest, most accepting, positive and CONSISTENT voice they hear. So that it can rise above the rest.

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