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Mom Skipped Daughter’s Award Assembly For A Run Because Of A Very Valid Reason

  • By Asad Tipu
  • December 9, 2017
  • 3 minutes read

Parenting is a difficult job with a lot of difficult choices.

A mom recently shared with everyone her decision to skip her daughter’s honor roll assembly to go for a run. In a Facebook post that has since gone viral, she said that she needed time to herself, and decided that it was the best time to do it.

It resulted in a lot of criticisms, with many calling her a bad mom, or many saying she’s making terrible decisions, but it’s worth reading. In every controversy, there’s something to be said.

She is a blogger and a television reporter.

So I did something that some may think is selfish recently, but I really needed it. I missed my daughter’s honor roll assembly so I could work out.

I started to feel the guilt creep in as I made this tough decision, but then I remembered ME, and how hard Thanksgiving and the week that followed was with my husband traveling.

How hard it was to deal with the tantrums that were never-ending.

How hard it was to feel 100’s of hot flashes as I am transitioning to a new healing protocol.

How hard it was to manage my anxiety, the house, the kids, the pets, and work.

Geplaatst door Kristen Hewitt op Vrijdag 1 december 2017

She explained how hard it was to make the decision.

And how hard it’s been to not have one single minute to myself.

I talked to her about how proud I was of her, but let her know I have to work a game tonight and needed to take care of myself this morning. She also had her father and grandmother attending in my place.

Guess what. She understood, gave me a hug, and thanked me for all I do for her. She also learned by example today that SELF-CARE matters.

Sometimes as parents we have to make hard decisions and show up for ourselves instead of showing up for our kids. And you know what?

It’s not selfish – it’s called self-love. ❤️

Geplaatst door Kristen Hewitt op Zondag 19 november 2017

In an interview with Babble, she had this to say.

Time is the one thing everybody needs and don’t have enough of. We as mothers always feel like we have to put everyone’ else’s needs above our own. We take care of the house and our kids and everything else and we’ve forgotten that our needs matter.

We matter. Taking care of ourselves is taking care of our kids. I just knew that morning, I needed some time to myself and to get away and clear my head. This was my way of doing it.

Geplaatst door Kristen Hewitt op Zaterdag 28 oktober 2017

She also clarified further.

It wasn’t her first assembly and there will be others. I always show up for my kids, but I never show up for myself.

I was worried about putting this message out there because I thought a lot of people would say I’m selfish or would judge me, but I don’t really care what other people think, I needed to take care of myself and I’m guessing other women and other mothers need to do the same. I felt like putting this message out there would help inspire other people to put themselves first.

Geplaatst door Kristen Hewitt op Woensdag 29 november 2017

You can read the entire post here yourself:

So I did something that some may think is selfish recently, but I really needed it. I missed my daughter’s honor roll…

Geplaatst door Kristen Hewitt op Maandag 4 december 2017

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