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That’s what I always say to someone who doesn’t know how to take rejection. I mean what’s so complicated about it? Not everyone likes everyone. And we just have to accept that.
Of course, nobody likes to be rejected. But, it doesn’t mean they have the right to be mean and force someone. And yet that is exactly what these guys did. You see, It all started when one woman asked other women to share their traumatic stories.
https://twitter.com/_ElizabethMay/status/998594031528669184
Hi ladies! RT if you’ve have had a frightening response from a man when you’ve rebuffed, rejected, or otherwise ignored his advances.
If you feel comfortable enough to share your experience in the comments, I want to hear you.
-May
At a friend's birthday, there was this guy who'd been jerking me around for almost a year. I knew he used my geniality in social settings as tacit approval/forgiveness, and I was tired of letting him think his nonsense was acceptable. So: I moved away when he went to hug me.
— lumen is on a break 🕯️ (@lumenaeternumIX) May 21, 2018
He was instantly furious, but bottled it. Kept walking by the table where I sat with a female friend and two men, glaring at me. When the two guys got up to mingle, he immediately cornered me. Wall behind me, table before me, this guy breathing down my neck.
— lumen is on a break 🕯️ (@lumenaeternumIX) May 21, 2018
Him: Wtf was that?
Me: Are you seriously pissed at me rn?
H: *escalated* YES I'M PISSED.I had to take a sec to breathe and then said: "You've got me pinned in here. Can you understand why I might feel threatened?"
Magic word, apparently. He retreated.
— lumen is on a break 🕯️ (@lumenaeternumIX) May 21, 2018
I was shaken up, though. I had never seen him angry. He'd waited til other men weren't there to witness. He blocked my exits. Did all this in public. I left soon after, honestly worried he might follow me to my car. Later got a lot of texts telling me I'd misunderstood him.
— lumen is on a break 🕯️ (@lumenaeternumIX) May 21, 2018
Every person we know mutually is still cool with him. Even though they know about this. I was ostracized by one (male) mutual friend bc I said I didn't want to be around this guy anymore. I was being so dramatic and inconvenient, you see. He apologized! So it's fine, right?
— lumen is on a break 🕯️ (@lumenaeternumIX) May 21, 2018
He didn't hit me, or sexually assault me, so the onus is on me to "get over it" or "understand his pov". Bottom line is, I lived for decades with that sort of misogynist male rage and vague threat of violence in my family. I'm not doing it again too "keep peace" with anyone.
— lumen is on a break 🕯️ (@lumenaeternumIX) May 21, 2018
Men know they can use fear of violence to punish us for not giving them what they want, anywhere, at any time, & still be deemed socially acceptable. Even the ones that don't think they can get away with physically harming us will still happily use the threat to keep us in line.
— lumen is on a break 🕯️ (@lumenaeternumIX) May 21, 2018
Anyway, it sucked, and it still gets my heart racing. Thank you for creating a space to share it. 💜
— lumen is on a break 🕯️ (@lumenaeternumIX) May 21, 2018
