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10+ Men Tell The Harsh Reason That Made Them Stop Texting A Girl Back

Ghosting is indeed a reality.

While not every person we talk to is ghosting us, they might sometimes be too busy to text, or they honestly might not be interested. I know it hurts, but we just have to accept the reality.

But there is another thing that hurts the most. It’s when someones interest in you starts to decline. Long paragraphs and meaningful conversations turn into ‘lol’ ‘okay’ and the dreaded emojis. So who wouldn’t like to have an explanation for this?

Well, today some men are going to give us just that; An explanation.

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#1 Bank of emojis.

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Turns out I wasn’t talking to her, I was just talking to her bank of emojis.

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#2 Chore.

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It began to feel like a chore.

She didn’t seem interested in me like she used to.

I began to feel like texting her wasn’t worth my time.

I decided I would respond to any text she sent but I would completely stop initiating conversation/questions (in part just so I could see what would happen) because it felt like I was doing it all.

Haven’t had a response since, and the above statements became more true than I wished…

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#3 Stale conversations.

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I did this for a year to a girl I like, but stopped because our conversation has gotten stale and it always circled around her and the shit that she likes to talk about.

However, when it’s MY turn to talk about myself and the shit that I like to talk about, not only would the enthusiasm drop it would be followed by one word replies.

Not about that life man.

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#4 Playing catch.

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For guys, texting is playing catch, I expect the other to throw the ball back in an equal-but-opposite capacity.

If I’m playing catch with someone and they consistently turn the other direction and throw it into the woods, or call there girlfriends once they have it and run away.

I’m gonna find someone else to play catch with

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#5 Brick wall.

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I feel that. She was good about initiating conversation, and I’ll admit, she did try to pretend she gave a shit about what was going on in my life, but we had run out of shit to talk about within a year and she was using me more or less as a diary or someone to keep her entertained when no one else would give her attention.

Eventually I got bored of having to be interesting for her sake and I wasn’t even sleeping with her anymore. I was playing the boyfriend to satisfy her emotional needs as she started to tell me about what ever hot guy she was hooking up with.

It was good conversation practice though.I reckon I can entertain a brick wall for a solid week now thanks to her.

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#6 OMG.

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I’ll only stop texting if they stop taking interest, e.g one word answers or ‘haha omg emoji‘ you can tell they’re having a better conversation with someone else

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#7 Bot.

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This is the god damn worst. Got match with a cute girl on tinder, asking her questions to get to know her better and all I’m getting is: “k”, “lol”, “yes”, “haha”.

LIKE WTF, after a while I just straight up asked her if she was a bot.

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#8 The wife.

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My wife told me to stop.

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#9 Flirty.

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Told me she wanted to be friends. She still wanted us to talk flirty because its fun. Just said fuck that.

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#10 Red flag.

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She sent me dick pics!!!

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#11 Doing nothing.

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Usually because they don’t do anything to keep the conversation going. I shouldn’t be the only one asking questions, etc.

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#12 Texting first.

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Not to give out a generalized excuse but for me, I always feel like I’m bothering someone if I text first so I try to wait until they do.

That way I know they have time to chat. It’s a silly thing really and I have no idea why I feel that way but it’s something I have a really hard time with.

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#13 Selfish.

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She was only interested in talking about herself.

Not even interesting things about herself. Just how much she hated her job and how much school stressed her out.

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#14 The ex.

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Brother. The ex and I split up and remained friends and she still talked dirty flirty with me but didn’t want any sex. Like seriously, you can’t do that.

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#15 Asshole.

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Lots of reasons:

Boring conversation

One sided conversation

You realize you’re really not interested

Found someone more interesting

I’m an asshole

Some more unique ones:

Things are shit and I don’t want to talk about it

Shits getting real

General insecurity about the future

Things aren’t progressing well or the way you want

I don’t feel like chatting and then get guilty for not responding. Then I have to come up with some excuse and I don’t want to so I avoid you.

I’m an asshole.

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#16 Okay.

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She literally started to reply with “haha, lol, nice, cool, ok, and k” only. Occasionally a longer sentence.

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#17 Glued to the phone.

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When I don’t get a text back for hours, but anytime we hang out the girls eyes are glued to her phone.

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#18 Talkative.

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For a few people it wasn’t just initiating, it was participating:

Her: So what have you been up to today?

Me: [double length text] how about you?

Her: I did [thing]. So what you up to now?

Me: [what I’m up to/if I’m doing something ask if she’s seen it/tried it/whatever] You?

Her: Not much.

ten minutes later

Her: You’re not very talkative tonight.

WTF am I meant to do with that? You want a conversation then join in.

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#19 One word answers.

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Because I started getting one word answers instead of paragraphs.

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#20 Initiating.

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I was always the one who was initiating conversations. I stopped initiating the conversations to see if she would and she never did, so I figure she just didn’t care about me so I should just stop trying.

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