Divorce Lawyers On Reddit Share The Worst Ways A Person Has Screwed Their Ex-Partner

  • By Asad Tipu
  • January 4, 2018
  • 8 minutes read

Relationship endings are always bitter.

Especially if the couple has been together for a long time. Marriages are worse, because something very serious must have happened if the two have decided to break things off rather than get back together.

Whatever the reasons, it’s heartbreaking and bitter. There’s even a lot of hate, but it’s nothing compared to the absolute loathing these couples felt towards each other at the end of their marriage. It’s so screwed up.

#1 Restraining order.

Bad seperation, wife filed a restraining order on the husband (very common, wasn’t a terrible guy but not great either). A year into the divorce his mother was dying, he asked his sister to speak with his ex-wife and ask to bring the kids to see her in the hospital before she died. The wife never did, instead she went to the court and said he violated the restraining order by trying to contact her (you can’t contact someone through another party).

He admitted it and explained the situation, but was found in breach of the order. His mother died while he was locked up and the wife never brought the kids to see her.


#2 Point of contention.

Story from my parents who are lawyers. So throughout the divorce proceedings, there was a car that was a huge point of contention between the husband and wife. After months and months of saying he would never let the wife have the car, the husband concedes in exchange for something great, like one of their summer houses. It turns out he had been driving the car for 3 hours everyday in a big loop around the city, putting thousands and thousands of miles on it basically making it worthless. The amount of planning and spite that went into that was amazing.


#3 Cats

She took the cats. He wanted the cats. Looked like courts would give him the cats. She had the cats put down.


#4 Family law.

Lawyer here, although I try to stay as far away from family law as possible. This story is from about ten years ago when I was working for the prosecutor’s office. For those that don’t know, the prosecutor is enabled by federal law to enforce child support orders.

One day I got a call from a pretty irate guy who said he got a letter from the IRS stating that we intercepted his tax return. It was common thing, so I told him I’d look into it. He went on about how he wasn’t a dead beat dad and how he took care of his kids and all. I told him I’d look into it and took his information down.

About 20 minutes later I got a call from the ex-wife saying he wasn’t a deadbeat. I asked if he called her and she said he did. I pulled his file and it said he was over $20,000 in arrears for child support and she said she took care of his kids. I told her his tax return got intercepted and that was the first she heard of that. She asked what was going to happen to it, and I said it would be transferred to her. But, she could just come in and fill out an affidavit and we could waive his arrears. She said she’d call me back. When she did, she asked how much the return was, and I told her I didn’t know. She said she’d call back again.

I talked to the guy about a week later, and he faxed me copies of cancelled checks that he provided to the ex-wife on a weekly basis for slightly above the child support ordered amount. That was his problem. For child support, you submit the payments to the clerk of the court, not to the other spouse directly (it prevents this issue). He requested a hearing and got one granted.

I wanted to help this guy, but I couldn’t. I kept advising that he get a lawyer (this was pretty easy), but he didn’t listen. He showed up at the hearing with check duplicates and the wife said she got those checks from him for another child and that’s why she paid him directly (they had another child after they were divorced). Judge ruled against him.

His tax return was around $6,200.


#5 Sizeable salary.

I currently have a client who makes a sizeable salary, north of $200k/yr. His spouse has separated but will not leave the matrimonial home, despite her overtures that she wants to become independent.

She has actively depleted the joint back account of hundreds of thousands of dollars, which she has siphoned into personal bank accounts and she uses to finance her lifestyle of expensive yoga classes, buying luxury purses and shoes, eating at fine dining establishments and spending recklessly to deplete her net family property.

She was literally taking every penny that he deposited from his paycheque on the advice of her lawyer, which she then used to pay for her lawyer. He was literally financing opposing counsel. That has now stopped.

She will not allow him to see the kids when he comes home from work, or even read them bedtime stories.

She refused to allow him to take his sons to see their grandfather in hospital, who passed away shortly thereafter, and she continues to alienate the children from the paternal aunts and grandmother. She has no extensive family that still speaks to her.

Both her and her counsel are bloodthirsty.

Even though they signed a prenup, she wants to take half of the 2.5 million dollar home, wants full custody of the kids, and wants him to pay her $8,000 a month in spousal support.

She could work full time earning as much as $95,000/yr, but she’d rather live life like a real housewife of Toronto.


#6 Toxic breakup.

My uncle represented this guy getting a divorce from his wife of 15 years. Super toxic breakup and they split everything 50/50, even the land that the house they lived in sat upon. Well she decides to build a house right behind the other house, mind you this was a lot of land probably 200 yards separating both home sites, so that the back of the houses faced each other. The house gets built and my uncle gets a call from his client asking about the legality of a situation he had gotten himself into. Apparently his ex wife would spend a lot of time in her backyard, so he saw her all the time. What he did was buy a female dog and name it the same name as his ex-wife. Anytime he would let his dog back in from letting her out he would yell “Susan you bitch! Get in here!” He would also yell if she was peeing on the flowers,”Susan you bitch! Quit pissing on the flowers!” or “Susan you bitch! Quit digging in the dirt!” The ex-wife called the cops on him a couple of times, but there was nothing they could do because the dog was registered under the name of Susan, and it was in fact a bitch so there you go. =


#7 Airline pilot.

I did some consulting work for two divorce attorneys when I was in grad school.

Their client was a career airline pilot. His wife worked part time so there was a huge income disparity. It was an ugly divorce.

During the process but before the final decree, tax time rolled around. The wife’s attorney calls my guys and says, “Her accountant just called. If they can just share their W-2’s and file jointly, they each stand to save about $8000 over married filing separately.”

My guys took that info to the husband. He says, “Fuck her. Losing $8000 is going to be way worse for her than it will be for me.” Cold as ice, man.


#8 Late divorce.

The couple separated 10 years ago but didn’t officially divorce until a couple years ago. She was going to get his house so he burnt it down then faxed her the transfer of ownership forms. He might be going to jail for arson though.


#9 Ziploc bags.

I’m am accountant not a divorce lawyer. Had a client hide Ziploc bags of ground meat throughout the house (in air vents, the attic, behind water heater etc.) I think it was at least 20-30 bags that took months to find all of them.


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