I found music to be a great outlet, but of course, any non-Christian music was not allowed and was immediately destroyed upon discovery. ‘Spare the rod, spoil the child’ was a mantra ingrained in my daily life.

Once I was into my teens and spankings were no longer enough to be considered punishment, my father moved on to shaving my head. Nothing reminds you how unworthy you are like someone forcibly removing your physical sense of identity.” 


#3 Scientist dreams.

“I wanted to be a scientist when I was a kid. My older sister saved up a lot of money to buy me a microscope kit, where you could make your own slides. It was awesome.

One day my sister and I got into a fight about who should do the dishes. My mother punished my sister by forbidding her from seeing her boyfriend.

My mother punished me by breaking my microscope in two. I lost all interest in science after that.”