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Bride Tears Into Fitness Trainer Who Tried To Fat-Shame Her

There Are Still People That Think Shame Is A Great Motivational Tool.

However, it is not. Don’t get me wrong. Being healthy is very important, and if losing weight gets you to your desired weight, you do you. That doesn’t mean other should fat-same you into doing what you are entirely happy with.

Cassie Young, however, had to deal with a person who was just like that. You see she was celebrating her engagement on Instagram. In amidst of all the positive comments, there was a personal trainer who thought she should hire him.

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Rather Than Blocking Him, She Responded To Him.

“Congratulations on your engagement. Hire me to get you in shape for your wedding.” Was the first thing the anonymous personal trainer said.  “I am in shape! Thank you so much for the offer, though.” She responded in a very kind manner.

However, he did not stop there. You can read their full conversation as follows.

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This guy reached out to me on Twitter with a pitch, and it spiraled into something else. I’m posting this because I want every woman and man to know that it does not MATTER what you look like. (I'm blue. He's gray. Swipe to read.) You are worthy. Love is out there for you. Life is waiting with open arms. It doesn’t matter if you’re skinny or fat or between the two or willowy or broad shouldered or peer shaped or like a board or anything in between. You get good stuff in life by being YOU. That's what matters. If you think of life as a “game” with being skinny as how you “win,” this guy is offering to play by the rules and get you there. I’m telling you the game is BOGUS. You don’t need the game. I reject the game. I REFUSE TO PLAY. It’s a fake construct that you can step outside of. Your inner-value and self-worth comes from YOU, not what you look like. Who gives a f**k if you got a few extra pounds. Or ten. Or twenty. Thirty. Whatever. If you are happy and healthy, that’s ALL that matters. Those pounds DO 👏NOT 👏DEFINE 👏YOU 👏OR 👏YOUR 👏WORTH. Don’t let people like this try to convince you otherwise, because they’ll try – but it’s because they don’t understand yet. They’re caught up in the game and can’t see it for what it is. You can. Life is waiting for you. It's too short to be spent worrying about a belly roll. Go be happy and live it to your fullest.

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She Also Further Explained Her Thoughts On The Matter.

This guy reached out to me on Twitter with a pitch, and it spiraled into something else. I’m posting this because I want every woman and man to know that it does not MATTER what you look like…You are worthy. Love is out there for you. Life is waiting with open arms.

It doesn’t matter if you’re skinny or fat or between the two or willowy or broad shouldered or peer shaped or like a board or anything in between. You get good stuff in life by being YOU. That’s what matters.

Cassie Young

She Continued To Explain That Body Standards Are Just Social Constructs.

f you think of life as a “game” with being skinny as how you “win,” this guy is offering to play by the rules and get you there. I’m telling you the game is BOGUS. You don’t need the game. I reject the game. I REFUSE TO PLAY. It’s a fake construct that you can step outside of.

Your inner-value and self-worth comes from YOU, not what you look like. Who gives a f**k if you got a few extra pounds. Or ten. Or twenty. Thirty. Whatever. If you are happy and healthy, that’s ALL that matters. Those pounds DO ?NOT ?DEFINE ?YOU ?OR ?YOUR ?WORTH. Don’t let people like this try to convince you otherwise, because they’ll try – but it’s because they don’t understand yet. They’re caught up in the game and can’t see it for what it is. You can.

Life is waiting for you. It’s too short to be spent worrying about a belly roll. Go be happy and live it to your fullest.

Cassie Young

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👈👈👈 HATERS TO THE LEFT. I’ll be honest, yesterday the trolls got to me for a hot minute. Their comments didn’t hurt my feelings so much as stole my faith in the world. I was shocked that people could be SO cruel and SO nasty, and I wondered why we should even bother about fighting against this cold, biter, heartless Army Of The Dead. . And then you reached out. And you. And you and you and you. You told me your stories of ordering your first two piece. Your battles with eating disorders and self-acceptance. The struggle with loss in your family and weight gain because of depression and how you battle it every day, head held high. Or going into the water in a bathing suit to play with your kids and make memories for the first time instead of hiding under a beach towel. Or stories of your kids, who see the world through innocent, honest eyes, and don’t get what the problem with being overweight is (because to them there is no problem.) Or the heartbreaking stories of how you or your daughters or sisters were on the precipice, and all they needed to realize was that fat is literally just an adjective, and not a judgment on who they are as a person, and now they’re getting married. . Thank you guys. You drowned out the trolls. You checked on me to make sure I was ok. You slammed the haters and showed me the light again. Texts, Tweets, Emails, DMs, Facebook Messages. There’s not even a comparison to the level of love I have seen on the internet from @TheBertShow community – my radio family – and from absolute strangers. . If you are struggling, know we are out there. Not only the outspoken protestors, but also the silent allies. We will stand tall with you and we will win this fight. I promise you. . EVERY body is beautiful. . This photo is for you, trolls. Eat your ❤️ out. . . . #EffYourBeautyStandards #EffYourBodyStandards #MYPerfectBody #LoveYourBody #IAmWhoIAm #HatersGonnaHate #BodyPositivity #LoseHateNotWeight #LoveYourself #BodyPositivity #EverybodyIsBeautiful #HealthIsWealth #SelfLove #HonorMyCurves #CelebrateMySize #TheRealMe #BBW #SelfAcceptance #RealBeauty #IAmGoodEnough #IAmWorthy #LookWhatYouMadeMeDo #AllTheHashtagsBecauseThisIsImportant 📷: @ownboudoir

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She Later Explained As To Why The Personal Trainers Point Of View Was Toxic.

It teaches people to be ashamed of how they look. We’re taught that value lies in our appearance, when it does not. It lies in your creativity, your talent, your skills, your drive, how you help others and the mark you leave on the world…not in how much you weigh.

And for someone to abuse their position as a trainer by inflicting mental damage to get clients is perpetuating the problem. It teaches fat men and women to be ashamed and that they’re not worthy, and it reinforces for everyone else that these people aren’t worthy and that they’re disgusting, which is blatantly untrue.

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He Later Revealed Why He Did What He Did.

I continued to respond to him because I want to educate. This guy is a trainer. He works with women and men and their bodies every day, and his approach was to shame me about my weight?

I don’t know what he tells his clients, but if he’s telling a potential client I should feel ashamed—well, it doesn’t sit right with me. So, I wanted to give him the opportunity to learn and get a new perspective. And I’m glad I did, because he later revealed to me that he thinks that shame is a great motivational tool.

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